Delegate to De-Stress your Wedding Day
If you have planned your wedding without the aid of a wedding or event planner, you still can avoid a lot of wedding day stress by delegating tasks to your family, friends and vendors.
Many couples choose a venue and/or caterer that takes care of the Wedding Day details such as setting up flowers along the ceremony aisle, arranging reception tables and chairs, placing linens and place settings, placing centerpieces and other decorations, providing food and bar service and cleaning up the facility. If you are budget minded and your facility allows, then you can still delegate many of these tasks to others. Just remember to do so!
One of the worst things that can happen on your wedding day is to be totally stressed because you are worried about all of the reception and ceremony details in addition to whether your lipstick is smudged or your tie isn't on straight. By carefully delegating tasks to family and friends, well before the wedding day, you will lessen your stress immensely from the start. The watchword is careful. Make sure that you select people who are appropriate for the task, will have time to do it properly and won't stress themselves.
Here are some specific ideas -
Designate someone to handle tips - Whether you are straightaway off to your honeymoon or sleeping at on-site lodging on the grounds of the reception facility, give a trusted person tips in labeled and sealed envelopes for key service providers such as your officiate, caterer and DJ with specific instructions to give these quietly before that vendor leaves.
Designate 1 or 2 persons to handle trash (if needed) and lost and found collection after the reception.
Have someone be the point person for day-of communication with the venue so that you are not bothered with last minute questions or concerns, such as delays caused by the officiate being late, or the fallen cake-top needing to be re-iced.
If you are not having a florist do your centerpieces, then you can assign a few of the bridesmaids to create centerpieces according to your theme and then they can place these on the reception tables and serving/banquet tables. Centerpiece creation can be a fun bridal shower project.
If the bride's or groom's parents are personally catering the wedding, make sure that they have additional help so that they are not missing the event. As much as they love catering and the contribution they are making to the wedding, they will still want to dance and enjoy the party.
If the venue or caterer does not provide a bartender and alcohol will be served, you will need to provide a bartender. Even if you do not need a licensed/insured person, don't designate someone from the wedding party as a bartender even if they have sworn off alcohol. It is much wiser and safer to hire someone who is dedicated to tend the drinks.
Say the bride's or groom's mother is personally handling the ceremony and/or reception floral arrangements or other decorations. Please make sure that she has at least one relative or friend to assist because when emotions run ragged at crunch time, the help will be appreciated.
These are just a few suggestions for de-stressing your Wedding Day by delegating.
Copyright 2008 by Mindy Makuta. Mindy and her husband own a small resort in Lyons, Colorado where they host outdoor weddings and family reunions. For more ideas on planning a wedding, visit weddingsandromance.com her web-site which covers topics of concern for before, during and after the wedding. They also publish http://www.168colorado.com, a site that helps plan Colorado weddings and vacations, including referrals for where to stay and what to do when you get there.